Happpy Hallowe’en!
October 29th, 2011 § Leave a Comment
Take Care Of Yourselves Darling!
Don’t Eat Too Much Candy!
Don’t Drink Too Much & If You Drink Don’t Drive!
Don’t Be Lame And Not Dresss Up! Have Fun With It!
For Non Hallowe’eners Have A Lovelyyy Autumn Weekend
Love Lust & Light
♥
R
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Things I Looove Thursday
October 27th, 2011 § Leave a Comment
Sooo Many Things To Looove
Right Now For Me, It’s All About The Hands Dahling!
There Are Lots Of Ways We Can Bring Attention To Our Lovely Appendages And Their Many Parts: Rings, Nail Polish/Art, Tattoos..
A Few Weeks Ago I Attended The Opening Of A Little Lingerie Shop, Which Is Always Fun And I Was Happy To Sit Down With The Lovely Madam Of Boom Nails, Custom Cute Nail Art… Here’s What I Got Done
I Got Hearts!
Black On My Fingers, Silver On My Thumbs
You Can Find Out More About Her Here
Oh!
And That’s My New Favorite Ring!
Here In Grey…
Pampering My Nails & Showing Off My Fingers (Which I Used To Hate!) Has Been Really Fun For Me Lately And Helps Me Feel Special And Glamorous With The Littlest Touch. I Know That Ring’s Not So Little But, It Only Takes A Second To Put On And It Makes A Big Statement.
This Is A Leopard Print Nail Tutorial From Cute Polish On YouTube, She Has Some Ammmazing Design Videos And Also Great Tip Vids, Like How To Make Your Own Specialty Painting Tools Which Is Helpful For Those More Intricate Designs…
Hands Are One Of Our Strongest Energy Points And Working Gently With Our Hands We Can Access A Lot Of Power And Healing, For Ourselves And Others. I Love This Little Flip Book Mudra Vid And Here’s The Wiki Mudra Entry If You Want To Learn A Little More..
I Looove Rings And Recently Picked Up This Gem At My Local Charity Shop…
These Are The Three Rings I’m Lusting After At The Moment…
Butler And Wilson – Entwined Hearts
The Great Frog – Gold Leopard Print Ring W Citrine
Topshop – Love Word Ring
Love Lust & Light
♥
R
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Sixteen Going On Seventeen
October 25th, 2011 § Leave a Comment
Thinking…
Gosh, What A Difference A Year Makes…
It Was My Birthday Yesterday, I Turned Seventy Seven
I Quite Like Getting Older
Looking Forward To My Thirties
Although I Feel Like My Life Has ‘Begun’
Something Tells Me That Time Will Be Mentalll
And I Know Everything In Between Will B Wild And Wonderful Too…
So Thinking Back On Where I Was A Year Ago
Rubyyy Jones Had Juuust Been Born
(Oh, Happy Anniversary Darling)
But The Birth Was Simply In The Word
Tho We Had Made Our Burlesque Debut
It’s Taken Most Of This Year For Me To Really Understand
What I’m Doing With The Burlesque
What I Want To Say As An Artist And Educator
So, Most Of Rubyyy Lived On This Blog
Almost In Love With Samurai, Attached A Bit Too Heavily
Still Seeing BBB, Wondering About That Attachment
Big Shifts Happening Within My Friend Relationships
Huge Energetic Gaps After I Let Go Of Some Deep Attachments To Ego, Conditioning and Negativity, Leaving Me Wobbly Spiritually
Learning To Face The World With A Vibrant Vulnerability, Connected To The Natural Flow Of Things
Coming Out Of The Dark Of A Very Depressed Twenty-Sixth Year
I Was Only Finding My Feet
Today I Am So Very Proud Of Myself
To This Day I Love, And Am Loved In Return, By My Various Lovers Of The Year
I Cherishhh The Sweetest I Keep W ‘Former’ Lovers…
( Do You Ever Stop Being Lovers In Your Connection?… )
I Am Working Hard To Save Rubyyy Jones
And Though I Think I Could Work Harder Sometimes
I’ve Learned The Wisdom Of Gentleness And I Know I Am Always Doing My Best
My Orgasms Have Changed
My Hair Has Changed, Several Times…
My Dreams For Rubyyy Jones
For Looove
For Peaceful Inner Enlightenment, Remain A Constant
I Continue To Build And Seek My Chosen Family
And I Feel Lucky To Include Lots Of The Special People From My Biological Family In This Growing Tribe
I Feel The Pure Bravery Returning To My Day To Day
Gearing Up To 2012 And 2014
Certain Dates I Have In Mind
The Return To My Fearless Teenage Self Is Most Exciting, When I Feel The Balance Of My More Experienced, Thoughtful Self Bringing Me Always Into Grace With My Actions
Grace, Graceful, Grateful
I Wish To Embody These Three States Of Being
It Feels Wonderful To Be Awake Again
To Fuck And Make Love To/With People Who Are Awake
To Collaborate, Create And Boost People Who Are Awake
To Know The Possibilities Of An Awake World
I Have So Many People, Situations & Opportunities To Be Thankful For
I’m Looking Forward To Seeing What This Year Brings
I’m Looking Forward To Being Thankful This Time Next Year
I’m Looking Forward
Power In The Reprise…
. . .
Love Lust & Light
♥
R
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Fridayyy Fun
October 21st, 2011 § Leave a Comment
♥
I wanted to bring you a little love on this autumnal day
So I present to you, a little ball of sweetness and sass, writer and renaissance woman Lori Smith! If you like what you read below, you can check out more of Lori’s writing on her wonderful blog Rarely Wears Lipstick and/or as the resident Relationship and Sex columnist for Bitch Buzz. Many thanksss to the lovely Lori for taking part!
The Love Game W Lori Smith
Photo By Jon Cartwright
Love Lust & Light
♥
R
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Wet Wednesday
October 19th, 2011 § 8 Comments
Just
Just What I Needed
Just
Just When I Needed It
Sweetness
Slow
Stripped Down
Worship
Just What I Needed
You
Crouched At My Feet
Peeling
Off All Kinds Of Layers
Honor
My Every Pore With Your Touch
See
Every Inch With Grateful Eyes
Know
Me In This Life And The Rest
Please
Hold Me In Between
Shaking
Ripped Wide Open
Soaked
In Tears, Juices, Sweat
What I Want
This Is What I Want
I Shout
“It’s What I Want”
Before The Come Gates Open
Something I’ve Said
Only Once Before
Knowing
That You See Me
Wanting
To Be Soft More And More
Needing
To Be Me More Often
Space
In Your Heart Was Understood
Given
On Paper, In Sweat, In Song
Yes
To Your Love, To Your Preciousness, To You
For Me
For Us
For You
. . .
This Weeks Prompt Is #Paper
All The Wanton Onesss
Love Lust & Light
♥
R
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Pleasure Portals
October 18th, 2011 § Leave a Comment
Hellooo Lovely Lovers!
How Are You?
I Am…Very Well, A Bit Sicky Still But Happy
Sorry To Have Been A Bit Absent Lately
Busy Busy Busyyy Times In My Life But More So In My Heart & Mind
Since I started seeing Jackson, I’ve been reconnecting with and also learning a lot about my need for sex with intimacy, spirituality and hotness all at the same time. This really feels like the sex, sexual relationship, sex life, I’ve always wanted. One thing we are both working on is our ability to be totally present with each other and only sharing sex in this totally conscious state. It’s been a wonderful challenge with fantastic orgasmic results! I’ve learned a lot from books, from my spiritual education, from lovers but I’m wanting to learn more SO I will be attending an upcoming workshop series at Sacred Pleasures called Pleasure Portals.
This is a four session course with classes on: Wednesday 2nd Nov – Conscious Touch, Wednesday 9th Nov – Tantra, Wednesday 16th Nov – Conscious BDSM, Wednesday 23rd Nov – A Conscious Play Party. I am sooo excited! Courses will be taught by Rebecca Lowrie, London Faerie and Claire Black; I know Rebecca and London Faerie from various fun events around Londontown and have heard many wonderful things about Claire Black. A few months ago I attended London Faerie’s Your Kinky Cherry, I wanted to attend because part of me was still unsure on the spiritual safety of BDSM play, dynamics and relationships. It was a really wonderful workshop, fascinating and very much in the love, light zone; which is exactly what I was hoping to find. As a teacher I found London Faerie to be knowledgeable on the sexual and sensual sides of sex, as well as really warm and welcoming (as is the Sacred Pleasures space!). I met Rebecca at Private Pictures, after weeks of ‘who is this sweet lady!’ and she did not disappoint; I have yet to be taught by Rebecca but she has an absolutely delicious energy which is so grounded and connected, I’m very much looking forward to learning from her.
So I promise to keep you posted on my learning and growing through this course! Also, I believe, if you are in the London area, there is still a little space in the class. You can come alone or not, you can be the most vanilla or the most kinky, just come! Here are some class/registration details and they have concessions if need be and have wheelchair access!
Can’t Wait!
See You There!
Love Lust & Light
♥
R
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e(Lust) #30
October 17th, 2011 § Leave a Comment
It’s that time again Loversss! Check out some of best in erotic writing and blogging; this month my Period Positivity Things I Looove Thursday got the e(Lust) flowing! Take a peeek!…
Photo courtesy of Emmy @ Right Turn Without Signaling
Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #31? Start with the rules, check out the schedule and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!
~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~
Crotch Topiary & Other Delights – I admit I started simple, I realised my teenage dream of having a Winona-inspired heart emblazoned on my mound. It was perfect. I used Contact paper to design my heart and just went to town pulling out every hair that was not covered.
In Defense of Exclusion – Sometimes it’s nice to be with people who are like you. It’s nice to be around people who get your kink, your fetish – to be somewhere that you don’t have to explain it to.
The Boy At Summer Camp – It started with an email with the subject line “butch at your service,” and an offer for a blow job. And I thought, hm. Well, you know, I do like those. But I’m not usually attracted to boys.
~ e[lust] Editress ~
Ask Lilly: “My sex toy stinks – what should I do?” – Would you put it in your mouth with that smell? Would you gag from the smell and taste? If yes, then why the hell put it in your vagina or ass??
~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~
The Letting Go
October 11th, 2011 § 1 Comment
So Loversss
It’s been one of those times again, where things are morphing and changing so fast, I’m hesitant to write them down. Want to give things, relationships, situations their space, in their unformed potential, to become what they will. I’m starting to understand how my writing effects different people close to me, and part of that understanding is still coming. I think Flynt may feel my blog, my writing ruined some of our potential, I will ask him but I don’t know what to think about that. I write from my heart and the heart changes so quickly, it’s so fluid it feels precarious to write about it now. But I am love. You know that Shirley song: Today, Tomorrow, Love Will Come And Find Me, Cause That’s The Way That I Was Born To Be, This Is Me, Thisss Is Me… Well that’s something I’ve realized on an even deeper cellular level recently, I am love. And not just me, obviously, we all are but there’s that very important power in positive self acceptance. So much of our self acceptance mottos, religions, etc emphasize accepting, owning the worst about you… But don’t forget about also accepting and owning the best! So I recognize this now, that I am love, I am loving and I am lovable.
I recently met a lovely man who has been helping me with some healing. some moving forward and some comes; lets call him… Jackson. We bumped into each other at a few parties before we finally connected and just at the right time, I was needing some wonderful intimate sex, some spiritual conversation and some tough sweetness and he is great at all three. We’re definitely lovers, it feels very intimate but it’s still casual, light and fun; just what I need. I’ve never fucked someone who speaks to my whole body the way he does, our play before our fuck reminds me a bit of the unbridled lust of secret teenager fucking. In the car or your parents living room, charged, ravenous, aggressive; it’s like that without the frantic fumbling, it’s absolutely delicious. I’m also happy to be loving with someone sweet as I’m feeling overwhelmed by my new orgasms, just a little and after sex of whatever kind, I feel very vulnerable…and dehydrated. After the fuck we lie together stroking and talking for hours, perhaps a few more orgasms for me, but mostly we connect more sensually, also just what I need.
So I’ve been making space in my heart, in my cunt, in my life for Jackson and, with true openness, to others and it’s been a little tough. When making space and connecting ties with new people, experiences, there tends to be a letting go, an untying of previous attachments to feelings, people, habits and it’s been painful for me to let go of some of my remaining romantic threads with Flynt. Bittersweet, I guess. I want to, which makes it easier, but with that letting go there seems to be a breaking down of the illusion, of what we had and some of the experiences we shared, not necessarily a sad thing, definitely an important emotional inventory. And though I believe we will always connect as lovers, know each other that way, something has to give a little for me to have space to grow new loves. And don’t get me wrong, the love I had for and shared with Flynt was incredible and one of the truest experiences I’ve had of love but it’s just easier to see the smoke from the trees from a distance. Hindsight is twenty twenty. Blah blah blah.
Although I’ve enjoyed for many years now, the pleasures of a non-monogamous lifestyle and I’ve learned and grown a lot because of my letting go to ego attachments around owning someone or being in love or needing someone to complete me. So knowing what I know simply from my own experiences, I know my heart feels like it has shifted gears, after the years of growing, experimenting, saving Rubyyy Jones, I need a person. A person. My person. My heart home base. I’m going to keep seeing Jackson, stay open to others but I know that my heart is sending out a beacon for this adventure. I care for Jackson and I feel love for him as a fellow adventurer, as a friend who fucks me into new heights and as an awake ally; I am open to it being him, to it not and I know he’s open to just about everything. He is teaching me a lot about letting go in many waysss.
Thanks for being my person lovers…
Love Lust & Light
♥
R
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With A Heart As Big As Texas…
October 7th, 2011 § Leave a Comment
Heya Loversss
Welcome To Fridayyy /// Hope You’ve Had A Lovely Week!
I’m welcoming the weekend with a little love and light brought by Gemma Waterson. A writer, librarian and sweetheart, you can find her writing on Uppercase F and as a contributor for the wonderful For Books Sake…
. . .
The Love Game W Gemma
1) What Do You Love Most About Yourself?
That’s a difficult question to answer! I suppose I like that I give everything to the people I care about. I don’t really tend to hold back in relationships. And that I’ve managed to land on my feet and take care of myself through difficult times.
2) What Did You Love Most About Your Last, Not Latest, Lover
His sense of urgency, which was a bit of a double edged sword to be honest.
3) What’s T First Song That Comes To Your Head When I Say… Love Song!
The first one that comes to my head is I Will Always Love You by Whitney Houston, but I hate that song! I don’t know why that popped in there. If I was to choose my favourite love song, it would be quite a different answer- that would be Willie Nelson’s I’d Have to Be Crazy, or Bob Dylan’s Lay Lady Lay.
4) What Colour Is Your Light?
I think it’s probably pink, even though it’s not really a colour I’m drawn to.
5) What Lights You Up, No Matter What?
A kiss on the forehead and a cuddle. A phone call at the perfect moment.
6) How Do You Bring Light To T World?
I try to encourage the people I believe in as much as possible. And also I think working with books is giving something back to the world. If I help someone read a book that changes their lives, that’s significant. It’s why I do what I do!
7) 3 Words To Describe T Way You Love
Fully, dotingly, and with a sense of humour.
8 ) Which Symbol Represents Love For You?
A big fat delicious white cake with lots of frosting, and sugared candy.
9) What Word Do You Use For Light?
Joy.
10) Write Your Own Version… “All You Need Is ____”
…someone to take care of you when you’re sick.
. . .
Love
My definition of love has changed a lot over the years, as it should really. When I was a young teenager, love was putting a poster up on my wall and idolizing it. Love was buying all the stuff with his face on it. Love was just lust, but I didn’t really understand that.
When I got into my mid teens, love became this all encompassing thing, and was mostly directed at people that didn’t (and could never!) know the first thing about my feelings. But it was such an overwhelming feeling that I couldn’t think about anything else. It was training wheels for actual love.
Then came my late teens, and my first actual love. At that time, love was putting into practice all those years of LOVING SOMEONE SO MUCH but having it reciprocated. It’s intense, and often has very little to do with practicalities, compatibility, or- even just a little bit- the person you’re in love with.
In my mid twenties I experienced losing love, and that put the whole thing quickly into perspective.
Now I can’t say that I know everything there is to know about love, but I do feel that I understand how to love within a proper, healthy, and grown up relationship. I’m not just in love with the idea of love anymore, which is what I’ve spent the majority of my life doing. Now I’m in love with a person- the actual person- and it’s so much more fulfilling. Instead of trying to enrich someone else’s life and make them happy, I realize that love is something that should enrich your own life. And love should inevitably make you happy.
. . .
Gemma is living in London, by way of Texas and Scotland. She spends her working life up to her elbow in books, scanning and digitising old science books at the Natural History Museum. She spend her personal life up to her elbows in everything else that comes with living in a city like London.
By Rubyyy Jones
Sending You Love & Light Sweet One!
Love Lust & Light
♥
R
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Private Picturesss
October 5th, 2011 § 11 Comments
Last week I attended a wonderful workshop, Private Pictures, hosted by the lovely Sarah Berry of Fannies Rule at Sacred Pleasures in Hackney, a great sex positive space. I have attended Sarah’s monthly meeting, Fannying Around at Sh Women Store, and was very fascinated by the Private Pictures class. This is an intimate, creative workshop where ladies sketch, paint, scribble their interpretations of their pussy!
On the evening I attended there were seven gorgeous cunts in attendance, including our fearless leader Sarah, and we were all different ages, sizes and flavors. I ran into erotic author, Annie Player, on the doorstep and we were greeted by London Faerie, practitioner and facilitator of Sacred Pleasures. After a lovely warm hug he ushered us into our artistic space where Sarah was busy setting up nibbles, wine, tea and art supplies. The room was warm and not too bright and it was wonderful to sink into one of the cushy sofas after a long day. One by one the other lovely ladies arrived and a lot of us were saying how luxurious it was to disconnect from work, to unwind for a while. Each with a drink in hand and well on our way to being unwound it was time to begin, so we made our way to a circle of crimson cushions.
Sarah started us off with a little introduction of her self, in her words…
I first came up with the idea for the group when I was a teenager. I couldn’t have sex, I didn’t know why but I dreamed of a place I could talk freely about my problem.
Every time I tried to insert anything into my fanny be it a finger, tampon, cock or courgette, I started to panic. I couldn’t tell anyone and suffering in silence led to clinical depression.
When I was 21, my then boyfriend marched me to the Family Planning Clinic. Not long after I got diagnosed with vaginismus. This is a condition where the brain tells the pelvic muscles to contract when anything is inserted.
A little bit more about vaginismus…
Vaginismus, sometimes anglicized vaginism is the German name for a condition which affects a woman’s ability to engage in any form of vaginal penetration, including sexual intercourse, insertion of tampons, and the penetration involved in gynecological examinations. This is the result of a reflex of the pubococcygeus muscle, which is sometimes referred to as the “PC muscle”. The reflex causes the muscles in the vagina to tense suddenly, which makes any kind of vaginal penetration—including sexual intercourse—painful or impossible.
A woman suffering from vaginismus does not consciously control the spasm. The vaginismic reflex can be compared to the response of the eye shutting when an object comes towards it. The severity of vaginismus and the pain during penetration, including sexual penetration, varies from woman to woman.
In Sarah’s journey to heal and understand she met a lot of people who just told her to relax, have a bath, etc but along the way she met some wonderful folks who helped her to embrace her fanny and one suggested capturing herself in art… And Private Pictures was born!
We each took turns talking about our fanny/cunt/yoni, how she was doing and what we expected from the class; we were all there for different reasons but all very excited! So after introductions we settled down in our own art space. There were stand alone mirrors to capture our bits and lots of different art materials; I grabbed a canvas, some acrylics, some water colours and a few pastels, hoping to make more than one pussy portrait.
I felt so blissed to be in this environment for a number of reasons… I love women, I love sharing with women, I love talking about sexuality, like Sarah I didn’t really have places where I could talk about sex and my sex growing up, so now I feel exhilarated by the freedom. I am a reformed self hater in many ways, including my feelings about my cunt…
So I settled in with my materials, my mirror, wine and was ready to take a long look at myself in the mirror. When I first started my sexual healing, I was encouraged in Betty’s Dodson ‘Sex For One’ to use a mirror to explore, related and connect with my vulva. I am comfortable doing this but hadn’t for whatever reason done it in while and I was surprised by what I saw:
My Cunt Has Blossomed!
I’ve always had one larger inner labia that sticks out from between my outer lips. Well, it developed in puberty and I was absolutely ashamed, I hated it and I remember telling my at the time boyfriend how sorry I was, how I was going to get it cut off one day. I didn’t know the word labiaplasty, I just knew I was deformed, disgusting and totally unsexy. Thankfully these feelings are long gone as I now know that fannies come in manyyy incredible shapes and sizes. So to look at my wiser, happier today cunt and to see that she is not only content but blossoming, I was a bit in awe. So my larger inner lip remains (I think it looks like a cute tongue, with my new pubic hair my pussy looks like a puppy to me *squeee!*) but I also noticed some of my other inner lip frilling and protruding in a way it hadn’t before, my outer lips fuller, more relaxed. I took in the shadows of my pubes, the crevices of my lips, the wetness dotted here and there and the technicolor of my feminine flesh.
I few tears pricked my eyes as I remembered the hate, the anger and the sadness I used to hold towards and in my pussy. Part of me wished I could come right there to say ‘Thank You’ to this energy that stuck with me through the dark times. Instead I painted for swirling private pictures, each a different side of my cunt’s personality…
The room was relaxed as we chatted and created our art work, I think I expected more silence but was so comfortable sharing with these women, so happy we were all open and feeling happily connected. There was so much laughter, it really was a scared space.
At the end of the session we came together to share our private pictures and I was blown away by everyone’s beautiful work. We each had made several portraits and each one showed a different side to each woman. Swirling blue and cherise pubic hair, lips like shells, doors and flowers, clits that were star shaped, hidden or in purple – it was a cunt love smörgåsbord. Like me there were women who focused on capturing parts of themselves they have not or did not like, scars, hairs, shapes that make us unique. I could tell I was not the only one who felt moved by her fanny and this wonderful experience.
I tucked away my pussy portraits, gingerly wrapping them and very excited to share! I had to scoop up Miss Berry in the biggest hug I could manage and I thanked her for the evening and not just for me but for all the women she is going to help with fanny healing, liberating and loving with this amazing workshop.
Thank You Sarah Berry
Thank Youuu
For future workshops and more details about her monthly meeting Fannying Around, please visit her site FanniesRule.com
Love Lust & Light
♥
R
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