How To…

Hellooo Lovers

Hoping you’re lovely and enjoying the vibrant Full Moon energyyy!
Woahhh!
It has definitely been a volatile year and I’ve had a few things happen over the last few weeks that have made it hard for me to stay positive and focused.
Nobody said it was easy!
Even for superlovers like us *wink*

It has been good for me to have these wobbly moments because I’d rather know where the weaker spots are in my self and in my self esteem so I can address, understand and nurture them. When we have these little or big breakdowns in our life, they’re normally followed by equal or greater levels of ‘Ah haaa!’ and break through – so worth it! My goal is to make the in-between times and the breakdown times as smooth, calm and contented as possible because these moments are inevitable, natural and healthy and it’s how we deal with them, what we learn from them and where we go from there that’s important. Lots of this comes down to attitude and how we manage our emotions as they arise, here a few practical tips from me…

9 Ways To Stay In The Light…

Piece By The Incredible Sharlena Wood

1. Breathe… I cannot tell you the number of times a little fit or a little slump has been avoided by taking 6 minutes to sit on a lovely cushion and to find my breath again.
Here’s a little routine I do:

• Find Your Breath: Find a comfy position to sit in. I like to sit on a cushion and for those with tight knees or hips, just add an extra cushion right under your butt for some lift! You can sit in a chair too, whateverrr, now just notice where your breath is sitting, don’t try and change anything at first. Is your inhale high in your chest? Where are you shoulders? Is your tummy involved? Close your eyes for better focus or light a candle so your eyes are entertained.

• Loosen Up: Keep focus on your breath but allow and coax your body to move and wiggle in whatever way feels right. If you feel a bit stuck for where to begin, I suggest a light shake of the shoulders, a kinda Burlesque boob shimmy but keep your back tall. Maybe your body will want you to rock back and forth catatonic style or for you to scrunch your face – just listen and do and don’t judge whatever comes up.

How To…

“How To Take Erotic Photos”

By Ruby Jones

Back by popular demand, I tackle the art of capturing yourself as you fuck yourself!

I want to begin by saying and triple underlining: Be cautious about who you send your photos to.

Ask yourself: does this individual respect me, and the intimacy I am establishing, by sharing this vulnerable and beautiful part of myself? Take your time!

Here are some common questions I receive:

Why do you do that? I like to think of each photo I send/share as a gift for my lover. A piece of me. A picture is worth a thousand words, right?  For me, it’s very fun too! I need to express my sensuality/sexuality and it’s a great outlet for my gushing energy.

What the hell do I do? I begin, if it’s a new lover, with less exposed photos: a post come portrait, a close up of a delicious body part, but generally I keep them a bit private and usually, as a precaution, without face and body in the same shot. Just to begin!

If I’m clicking away for a lover i do trust/know the sky is the limit! I’ve done everything from: a strip tease series, dress up, cunt close ups, you name it. Always make sure you’re having fun, feeling sexy and safe.

How do you take your pics? Well, god bless the photo booth on my mac and the gorillacam app on my iphone. One hand is all you need! Hahaha I always make sure I’m in a sexy mood, sometimes I do a little self loving session before things get underway; gets those creative juices flowing and inspires me. I make sure I have flattering lighting, normally nothing too bright; lamps, candles or natural light work best for me. I take many pics of the same angle/part/expression and choose the one I like best.

Do I have to be masturbating? No. A little portrait of you with a saucy expression is, by my definition, an erotic photo too. It’s intimate, sharing of your sexual self. The very first erotic photo I took was for my Samurai. We’d just had our first skype date and I was glowing with oxytocin dew. He commented on how he loved the deep dip of my waist and I snapped myself lying on my side, nude, with my waist and hip being the focal point, no tits, no ass, no vulva; still incredibly sexy (thank you very much!) and well received.

How do I send it? Avoid facebook and twitter. Stick with email/text or another private file sharing medium, dropbox or even skype.

What do your lovers usually say when they get them? Well, that’s a mixed bag and surely depends on the photo; anything from photos replies, to erotic writing tidbits, to a sweet and simple ‘thank you’. If I’m not satisfied with a response I receive, I usually will say frankly and flirty: “Next time I send you a pic, I want you to tell me what it makes you feel, what it makes you want to do with, for and all over me.” something like that, because for me it’s a dialogue. You need to decide what you feel you need.

A Note: Some people just don’t get the intimacy behind sexy photo exchange. My former lover, Beaux, once asked me out right “why do you do that?” after sending him some mind bendingly beautiful images, which he did enjoy. I’m not sure how I answered the question at that time but it drew a line for me right away: this person does not get this and so this person does not get this privilege. If you are feeling like your lover isn’t appreciating the gesture, remedy that: by communicating or stop giving. You are being brave, tenacious and hot, if they don’t get that, they’re either a) an idiot (half kidding) b) not worthy of your hotness or c) not ready for the vulnerability of the expression. It’s not a deal breaker for me necessarily but it does make a girl think about the kind of person she’s sharing herself with…

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This Was My 2nd Erotic Photo

I Titled It ‘Sex Piggy’…

I Captured It While Riding My Magic Wand …’All The Way Home’

Love Lust & Light

<3

R

How To…

“How To Have Video Chat Sex”

By Ruby Jones

Welcome to my first ‘how to’ this time on ‘skype/video chat sex’

Some common questions I receive!…

Do you have to be naked? No! You don’t even have to turn the camera on, you could take turns with your chat buddy being invisible, or you could just start with an audio call to warm you up to the idea. Take your time. If you are using video, start wearing clothes, take off as much as you’re comfortable with or just get nekkid from the top! The possibilities are endless

Where/At what do you point the camera? Wherever you want baby! Sometimes that’s a fun little game you and your lover can play – ‘what do you want to see?’ and ‘show me your ___’ Don’t choose a position you’re not comfortable with, you won’t be able to relax and it’s supposed to be fun. So, alternatively you can take the lead and point wherever you choose.

Here are a few position ideas…

For ladies: You lie on the bed on your back, camera catches you from the side, you can choose how much to share. Sit on the edge of your bed and have your camera elevated so you’re capturing your lovely breasts, shoulders and face but maintaining some more privacy. If you’re a lil more connected with you partner, you can have the camera between your legs, your vulva being closest, with a long view, all the way up to your face OR hard core with all cunt, all the time : )

For men: A more modest view of face, pumping arm and chest for new lovers or e-sex-ers. If you want a lil more action, give a full length view, computer chairs are great for this!, and you can stay relaxed. The same as the ladies, everyone loves a lil hard core, so having a close up of cock/workage front or side on is always great.

What do you do exactly? Well, usually you masturbate with or for your partner/lover/new friend. You can use fingers, toys, you can have porn going, you can tell stories, you can just watch and enjoy, etc! It’s your sex, you can do whatever you want; just make sure you’re totally comfortable and happy.

I would feel weird… Why? Explore that. You’re a sexual being and there is nothing strange or bad about you expressing that with a person you trust and is worthy of your hotness.

Sexy tips from me…

>>> Hang out before. Just like any good sex, the connection between you and your lover makes everything hotter. Now there are times when you’ll just need/want to jump right in, but if you’re scheduling a skype date with your lover, book in several hours. Have a glass of wine together, talk about the fantasy you want to play with while you e-fuck, or whatever happened at work that day, unwind, appreciate each other

>>> Cuddle after! Be naked and cute and oxytocin high together. Even a few minutes of gazing and a “thank you” makes this digital experience all the more intimate.

>>> Sync your stroke! As you watch your man/lady work his/her lil man/lady, follow his pace with your dildo/vibe, it’s more intimate and interactive and fun OR take the directors seat and tell him/her just how you want to watch him/her work it. Meow!

>>> Before you being, walk through your toys with your partner. Have a few options ready. This keeps the flow going and they can demand you grab your *insert penetration/vibration device here* to mix things up or incorporate them into your story which is hot hot hot

I had some lovely sex the other day over le internet and tried for the first time the camera-between-the-legs shot, more on that soon

Love Lust & Light

<3

R